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toxic grandparent handbook

Having a toxic person in your life is one thing. But dealing with a problematic grandparent is an emotional minefield that keeps parents in a state of perpetual turmoil.

If you’re dealing with one, you probably feel torn between family loyalty and the need to protect your children.

You’re desperate to save your child from the claws of a toxic grandparent.

Yet you feel confused and guilty for having these thoughts.

I know it’s frustrating. I know you feel helpless and angry. I’ve been through it myself.

So I wrote a book about it, to help parents navigate this treacherous terrain and feel empowered to confront unacceptable behavior, even from an elderly family member.

WHAT IF YOU COULD...

  • Have a clear understanding of who you’re dealing with
  • Have the right vocabulary to identify and label abusive behaviors
  • Stop feeling like a bad person for not wanting your parent (or in-law) around your children
  • Find a way to have contact with the grandparent on your terms, or let them go without the guilt
  • Have actionable strategies to protect your children from the grandparent’s negative impact
  • Reframe your experience to find the benefits of having a challenging grandparent in your life
  • Move forward with your own healing
  • Empower your kids by empowering yourself
  • Create a more harmonious life for your family
toxic grandparent handbook

Introducing

The Toxic Grandparent Handbook

We come from different families and cultures. But what we all have in common is the torment, the confusion, and the bewilderment of having an abusive parent become our children’s grandparent.

I can’t promise you easy solutions. But I promise that this book will help you better understand your family predicament, identify key warning signs of abusive behavior, learn to cope with a toxic grandparent on your terms, and, hopefully, come one step closer to healing.

5/5

a must-read

The Toxic Grandparent Handbook was an eye-opening and validating experience. As the child of a narcissistic and physically abusive mother, this book resonated with me on a profound level. I have been affirmed in my decision to cease contact with my mother, not only for the sake of myself but for the mental health and physical safety of my daughter, and I cannot thank Lana enough for this affirmation. This book is a must-read if you are on the journey to breaking the abuse cycle.

– Jasmyne

What’s Inside the eBook?

Chapter 1: Definition and Psychology of the Toxic Grandparent

Three approaches to identifying a problematic grandparent. How aging affects someone with an already negative disposition.

Chapter 2: Common Traits of the Toxic Grandparent

13 commonalities and behavioral patterns typical of most difficult grandparents. 

Chapter 3: The Narcissistic Grandparent

Identifying traits of a narcissistic grandparent. Depersonalization and emotional detachment tactics for coping with one.

Chapter 4: The Angry Grandparent

How to distinguish between normal anger that we all express
occasionally and toxic anger unleashed by an abusive grandparent.

Chapter 5: The Controlling Grandparent

Clear indications that you are dealing with a controlling grandparent. Obvious vs. subtle control. Learning to advocate for yourself and your children.

Chapter 6: The Indifferent Grandparent

Signs of the indifferent grandparent. How to react when the grandparents show no interest in being part of the grandchildren’s lives.

+ 6 more chapters!
5/5

practical and insightful

This book is full of helpful information about dealing with toxic grandparents. Lana really walked the extra mile when writing this book. She gives clear examples that help you determine if you might be dealing with a toxic grandparent. She explains every toxic subtype in a very detailed manner. And for each type, she gives practical tips on how to navigate the relationship with that toxic person in your life.

– Alexander Burgemeester, PhD

Founder of The Narcissistic Life

ask yourself

Do you want to feel empowered when dealing with the toxic grandparent?

Grab your copy for $14.99

This eBook is for you if:

  • You grew up with a narcissistic or toxic parent who is now your children's grandparent
  • You have a toxic in-law who is now your children's grandparent
  • You are a grandchild who’s been a victim of a toxic grandparent’s abuse
  • You suspect that an older relative of yours is toxic
  • You’re wondering if you might be the toxic grandparent
  • You want to learn more about the psychology of toxic people, and the higher purpose of their presence in our lives
5/5

speechless

Lana. I can’t believe you wrote this book. Speechless. How we deal with the attitudes of the grandparents, or even life itself, comes down to “INWARD” spiritual lessons. Our reaction to how others treat us are either “Stepping stones” or “stumbling stones.” An opportunity to either stand or fall. But each time we rise from the ashes like the PHOENIX, we become stronger each time.

– Anthony

Meet the Author

Lana Adler is a writer, blogger, and a doctoral candidate. She is currently writing a dissertation on the topic of surviving emotional abuse in childhood.

When Lana first founded Toxic Ties in 2017, it was meant as an outlet for her own frustrations over a difficult family situation. But very quickly it became much more than that. It became a public forum and a safe space for emotionally battered people, mostly women.

In her writing, Lana aims to merge personal experience, academic knowledge, and a touch of spirituality to create empowering and emotionally honest pieces.

“The Toxic Grandparent Handbook” is not an exception.

In her blog Toxic Ties, Lana writes on topics ranging from toxic relationships and personality disorders to spiritual growth and self-care. This is the most meaningful part of her life. Her goal is to show her readers that there is a way to turn any challenge into an opportunity for growth and healing. It’s never too late or too early to learn to hold your power!

the author of "The toxic grandparent handbook"
5/5

embracing the change

Coping with a toxic grandparent is a complicated situation filled with more emotion and trauma than I can truly describe here.  It has proven to be quite a battle. Seeking education, therapy, distance, and reading this book (and several others in the passing months) has helped significantly with redirecting my life and emotions.

Thank you for being such a beautiful and inspiring light in such a confusing time.

– Debbie

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

This eBook is the most comprehensive toxic grandparent guide on the market today. You will not find this information anywhere else!

You will get your download immediately after the purchase.

This book is only available on my website.

You can securely make your purchase with PayPal or credit card.

This eBook is 140 pages long.

No. While some parts of the book can be found on the blog, the “Toxic Grandparent Handbook” is a unique educational material that hasn’t been previously published anywhere.

Absolutely! Just email it to me at [email protected].

Due to the digital nature of this product, all sales are final and non-refundable. Please get in touch with Lana via [email protected] if you have any questions about the contents of this eBook.

5/5

so helpful

Lana, this is a topic I’ve never seen covered, but it’s certainly been an issue in my family. I thought my narcissistic mother may change and be a good grandparent to my sons (at least, that was my hope). Surprise, surprise, she did not!

Your book helped me come to terms with that. Reading it was so eye-opening to me. I finally saw my mother’s true colors and no longer blamed myself for her lack of love and attention during my childhood. She’s been consistent, and I just needed to finally accept who she was. Thank you for helping me do that.

– McKenna 

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